We’ve put time and effort into planning things a certain way. But life loves a plot twist.

Think of flexible thinking like a muscle. It might feel stiff or weak at first but with practice it gets stronger and more adaptable.

Pay attention to “shoulds”. They should be ready on time. Things should go as planned.

Change it to, “I’d prefer it if…..”

Focus on what’s in your control

When things go awry, like someone else’s lateness, shift your focus. Think of what you can control. Next steps you can take and an alternative solution.

Flexible thinking reduces stress

You can improve your ability to navigate the inevitable uncertainties of life and relationships.

Let’s pretend there’s a party to attend. Mom, Dad and kids are invited. Aunt Sally wants a ride from you. The plan is to leave at 4:30pm. Pick up Sally at 5pm which should be enough time to get to the party by 6pm . Everyone is on the same page.

Daughter changes her mind on what to wear. Sally will come to your house instead. Dad is still napping at 4pm. Traffic report says, there’s an accident on the route you planned on taking. Any of these scenarios can send your stress level way up.

STOP – THINK – BREATHE

REMEMBER YOUR SLOGANS (in the tool box) Easy does it! Keep it simple!

Calmly communicate that an alternate route must be taken due to the accident. State your needs clearly, “I need everyone’s cooperation.” “I’d prefer you wear what you had planned to wear.” “I’d prefer if you’d wake up now and get ready.” “I’d prefer if you stick to the plan of us picking you up.”

Learning to “go with the flow” and being flexible will help you bend and not break.

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